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It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes
harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they
were younger. When you notice this, try not to shout at them. Some are
over-sensitive and there's nothing worse than an over-sensitive woman.
My name is Alan. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife,
Julie. When I took early retirement last year, it became necessary for
Julie to get a full-time job for the extra income that we need.
Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her
age. I now usually get home from the pub about the same time she gets
home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she nearly always
says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I
don't shout at her, instead I tell her to take her time and just wake me
when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch at the pub so
eating out again is out of the question. I'm ready for some home cooked
food when I get in.
Julie used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's
usual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner. I do
what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that
they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it
does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed. Another
symptom of ageing is complaining. For example, she will say that it is
difficult for her to do the shopping during her lunch hour. But we take
them for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell
her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't
have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now
and then won't hurt her. I like to think tact is one of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods.
She has to take a rest when she has only half finished mowing the lawn and
several extra breaks when she's vacuuming through the house. It does
annoy me, vacuuming when I'm trying to watch 'Match of the Day', but I try
not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to make herself a nice
cup of tea and just sit for a while, and as long as she is making one for
herself, she may as well make one for me too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Julie. I'm
not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will
find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows better than
I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However, even if you
just use a little more tact and less criticism of your ageing wife because
of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile.
After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.
EDITOR'S NOTE:
Alan died suddenly last week. He was found with a 24-inch Stanley
screwdriver rammed up his backside with only 2 inches showing.
His wife Julie was arrested, but the all-woman jury accepted her defence
that he accidentally sat on it.......
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